Archives for March 2013

maternity photos

Thank you to Heather of Bella Fina Photography for these fun photos!!


3/14/13 – 3/20/13

The sciatic nerve pain has continued this week and on some occasions has gotten worse. It’s the strangest pain to try and describe — when it happens, it’s horrible — when it’s not happening, I’m perfectly fine. I try my best to stay off my feet as the pain seems to only happen when I’m standing, but it’s not exactly easy to sit on my butt all day (although a part of me thinks I should enjoy this time that I have of doing nothing while I can!)

To add to the sciatic nerve pain, my blood pressure has also started to increase this week. Due to this, as a precaution, the doctor wants me to come in 2x a week for a non-stress test to be performed. The test is non-invasive, and involves attaching two monitors to my stomach for about 20 minutes, one which monitors fetal heart rate and one which monitors contractions.

I also attended a breastfeeding class this week. I fully intend on breastfeeding for as long as I can, but I realize it doesn’t always work out (for mom or for baby). With that said, I did learn some helpful tips during the class to make the process easier, such as to NOT introduce a pacifier or bottle for the first 4 weeks; and that it’s highly recommended that the baby feed on breast milk ONLY for the first 6 months to receive the most benefits from this liquid gold, as they call it!

We had a fun maternity photo session with Heather from Bella Fina Photography this week. You can see the photos by clicking here.

Only 2 more weeks until I’m full-term!!!


3/7/13 – 3/13/13

This week baby Becher is the size of a large cantaloupe! Week 34 = pain. I’ve started to experience sciatic nerve pain, which is absolutely horrible. I mean horrible! While the pain is periodic and only lasts a few seconds, it is by far the worst pain I’ve ever experienced (says the woman who hasn’t gone through labor yet!) The pain is caused by the baby resting on my sciatic nerve, and when it happens, it sends a jolt of nerve pain down my leg that literally takes me down to my knees. The best way to help alleviate the pain from coming on is to stay off my feet, which has limited me to staying on the couch pretty much all day (good thing I finished my last wedding over the weekend!). I’m not officially on bed rest because there is no harm/danger to the baby, but for the meantime, I’m staying off my feet as much as possible. On the other hand, Craig has been busy this week “on his feet” getting ready for baby..!


2/28/13 – 3/6/13

Baby Becher is now the size of a PINEAPPLE, and weighing in at 4.9 pounds.

This week we met with our doula – Andrea Hall from Nurtured Birth – to go over our *birth plan and what her role will be once I go into labor.  She will provide non-medical support and relaxation techniques, help maintain a calm and peaceful birth environment, document highlights from the labor and delivery, and stay with me for a few hours after delivery to make sure I’m comfortable and settled.  As the day gets closer, I’m getting more and more nervous about the actual labor & delivery, but knowing that we’ll have a doula with us calms my nerves just a little bit.

*during my search for “how to write a birth plan” – I came across a hilarious birth plan that you can read by clicking here [disclaimer: you will likely appreciate this humor more-so if you have been pregnant before and written a birth plan yourself, otherwise you might not find it funny at all.]

We also visited a 3rd pediatrician’s office this week, and 3rd times the charm!  Wake Forest Pediatrics meets all of the criteria we were considering in our selection, and we were impressed with the additional medical capabilities available within their practice.

I want to give a special thank you to my Junior League of Raleigh friends who threw me a surprise baby shower over the weekend…So much fun — thank you ladies!!


my first belly laughs…{a reflection}

I was looking through old pictures on my phone today and I smiled ear-to-ear as I came across these photos:

While these might look like baby bump photos, they are actually “fake” baby bumps. I thought I would share with you the story behind the pictures; or what I refer to as my first {pregnancy} belly laughs.

Flashback to August 2012..

I joined Craig on a business trip to NYC about 10 days after my mom passed away because I didn’t feel like I was emotionally ready to be home alone. At this point, I was a mere 4 weeks pregnant and we had only shared the news with my dad & step-mom and Craig’s mom & dad.

While Craig was working, I was excited to spend time with my friend Lauren S., who was on a break from law- school and able to gallop around town with me. However, I knew that it would be hard for me to keep the pregnancy a secret from her, as I’m not usually one to turn down a glass of wine! And just as I thought, the minute she ordered a glass of wine at lunch and I ordered a ginger-ale, the secret was out. But surprisingly, it was very comforting to share the news with her (even though it was so early in the pregnancy) because I was still grappling internally about losing my mom and then finding out that I was pregnant the next day; my emotional yin and yang.

We soon found ourselves [one barely pregnant and one definitely not pregnant] venturing over to Destination Maternity and trying on clothes with the help of their fake “6-month pregnancy bump” strapped around our bellies. Thus, the pictures above!

But what you can’t see (or hear) from the photos is what they truly captured – my first good ole belly laugh since my mom had died. And in that moment, I was able to briefly put my sadness to the side and focus solely on the excitement of my pregnancy.

I can hardly believe how fast the time has flown by since these photos were taken, as I’m now approaching 33 weeks with a “real” baby bump way past the “fake” baby bump that we were pretending to have. And while I sit here and reflect on the past several months, I find myself again in an emotional yin and yang; as with each week that has passed by, I’ve gotten that much closer to the day that I will say hello to my daughter for the first time, and that much further away from the day that I said goodbye to my mom for the last time.


2/21/13 – 2/27/13

As we took this week’s baby bump picture, I was reminded of the first picture we took at 8 weeks pregnant, which is now the same number of weeks we have left until my due date!

Baby Becher is weighing in at 4 pounds this week, and she’s about 19 inches long. Speaking of weight and height, if you haven’t already done so, click here to add your guess to our online baby pool!

This week we visited 2 out of the 4 pediatrician offices on our list (which was created based on proximity to our house and if they are covered by our insurance). Jeffers Mann Pediatric seemed small when we walked in, but the pediatricians we met with were very informative about their role in our baby’s life – beginning with a visit to the hospital the day after she is born. The staff was super friendly and it seems like the type of pediatrician office that really gets to know your child/family on a more personal level. Growing Child Pediatrics was a much larger practice – which we thought we would like – but the waiting room was not divided into sick/well/newborn sections, and the pediatrician provided us with very little information. We did not get that warm and friendly feeling from the moment we walked in, but the deciding factor was that they do not visit newborns in the hospital, which is something that’s important to us. Is it obvious which one we like best so far?!

We also had our 32 week pre-natal appointment. Baby Becher’s heartbeat has dropped to 140bpm, which initially alarmed me, but we were reassured by the doctor that it’s normal for the heartbeat to slow down as we get closer to birth. We’ve also now “graduated” (as the doctor said) to the point where we carry around with us a copy of my prenatal visit records to assure that I always have them with me to bring to the hospital when I go into labor.

Our little honeydew (yes, she’s now the size of a honeydew, which is the first of the fruit comparisons that has made me say “wow, that’s big!”) is taking up so much room that she’s squishing my lungs, make it harder for me to breathe. And don’t even get me started on the difficulty I’m now having turning from side to side when I’m laying down, or trying to get myself up off the couch!