Archives for November 2013

our family {November 2013}

Thank you to Heather of Bella Fino Photography for capturing our family on what was a beautiful November day in North Carolina!

one year later

Last November, we found out that baby B was a girl {read about it here}. This November, we decided that the fact Sadie is now sitting up was a good excuse for a photo shoot of our baby girl.

It’s amazing what a difference one year makes!

one year later

Looking at these two photos – side by side – I am once again brought back to a place of missing my mom. I remember so clearly the day we found out the sex of Baby B. I wanted a daughter more than anything; I wanted a daughter so I could be the mom that I just lost. Of course I would have been happy with a boy, but words could not describe how thrilled I was that we were having a baby girl. And now, one year later, looking at a photo of us with our precious daughter, it brings tears to my eyes. I came across this quote, “Mothers and daughters are closest, when daughters become mothers” and it really struck a chord with me. Even though I don’t have my mom here with me, I appreciate and respect the woman {and the mother} that she was in a whole new level now that I am a mother.

Thank you to Heather Finnocchiaro of Bella Fino Photography for capturing these moments for us to cherish last year, this year, and forever.

Sadie week.by.week {month 7}

week 25:

week 26:

week 27:

7 months:

ma-ma {{my heart melts}}

I found out that I was going to be a mom on August 12, 2012.
I became a mom on April 12, 2013.
And then today Sadie said the words every mother can’t wait to hear, “ma-ma”.
And Craig just so happened to catch her saying it on video 🙂

Sadie says MA-MA from stacy black on Vimeo.

If the above video doesn’t play, you can view it by clicking this link: http://vimeo.com/78589346

I use to be so annoyed with those women who would say, “just wait, you have no idea what true love is until you have a child.” I thought, yeah right. Well guess what? I deserve a smack in the face for doubting them, and for ever believing that any love could compare to a mother’s love. Love is not unconditional until your heart is walking outside of your body. Love is not complete until you see your own smile and eyes on the face of someone else’s {even if she does look like her daddy!}. And on a day like today {and almost everyday} when it hurts knowing all of this NOW but not being able to tell my own mom that I love her, it makes the pain a little less hearing my daughter say the words MA-MA.
My.
Heart.
Melts.

Things They Really Don’t Tell You When Having A Baby

I came across this post on huffingtonpost.com (written by Cara Paiuk) and I just think it’s so funny and {sigh} TRUE that I had to share it on here. I added in #32-#40. If you’re a parent, what are some things you would add to this list? Send me your comments!

As an expectant mom or new mom, you have seen this list in some form before. The “things that no one tells you.” Well, most of those lists are missing something. These are some of those missing gems.

1. It will take you at least five hours to watch a movie at home.

2. You will rush through all of your meals as if you were in an eating contest.

3. Sometimes, your baby will be in plain sight when you have sex. And he/she might not be sleeping. Yes, that means watching you.

4. You will compare and contrast your baby against all others and think yours is the Best. Baby. Ever.

5. Things that seem overpriced and worthless end up being what your baby loves most (Toy Bar – $34, Sophie le Giraffe – $20, Happy Baby – priceless).

6. Since your baby wants to mimic you, you will be forced to hand over expensive electronics and pray that they won’t be ruined.

7. You think your parents will help out, but they won’t be nearly as helpful as you hope.

8. You will become an adult and your non-adult friends will fade away.

9. You will think a lot about your relationship with your parents and notice how you are paradoxically becoming them and reacting against them.

10. No matter how great your relationship is with your spouse, you will experience more conflict than you ever did before.

11. You will be embarrassed and humbled by cleaning up poop, experiencing your child screaming in public and/or being that person who is slowing everyone down/getting in the way.

12. You will love your partner more than ever. Especially when daily sacrifices become acts of heroism.

13. You will hate your partner more than ever. Especially when you are bleary-eyed and under-appreciated. So basically, most of the time. You’ll have to tap into reserves of love, patience and tolerance you never knew you had.

14. You will make noises you did not know were possible in an effort to elicit a smile from your baby. Some of those sounds will be obscene.

15. You will learn that the symptoms of sleep deprivation closely resemble severe mental illness.

16. Being asleep by 10 and awake at 6 on a Saturday night has never seemed so glamorous.

17. Your newfound interest in poop will frighten you. When, how much, color, consistency — you may talk about poop more than anything else.

18. You will realize that you never knew this kind of deep love until now.

19. Your breasts are no longer your partner’s (or yours).

20. You’ll find yourself making up ridiculous songs with running commentary on your every move.

21. You will have the highest highs and the lowest lows, possibly all within microseconds of each other.

22. Although you may have appreciated oldies before, you will now catch yourself humming or singing nursery rhymes and ditties from the baby’s toys.

23. No matter how much baby-proofing you do, your baby will find the one thing you didn’t baby-proof.

24. No matter how good your intentions are, keeping up with your baby book is nearly impossible.

25. No one can truly prepare you for what will happen to your body. Hemorrhoids. Stretch Marks. Muffin Top.

26. You are so worried about what your child eats, how much, when, etc. you can forget to eat yourself. Or there is just no time to eat. You may find yourself standing in front of the fridge holding your baby and stuffing string cheese into your mouth.

27. Taking care of your baby will swallow up all your time. You may go days without showering.

28. It’s hard to talk about anything other than baby. If you somehow manage to go on a date with your partner and make a concerted effort to avoid the subject, you will probably be rewarded with some awkward silences.

29. You become insanely paranoid. Every toy, blanket, crib, etc. is a potential threat to your baby’s well-being.

30. You find that “parenting” joins religion, politics and sex as topics unfit for polite conversation (but poop is allowed!).

31. You think airport security sucked before?

32. You will take 100’s of photos of the exact same pose just to get the perfect shot of your baby

33. You will reach new lows, such as going to the bathroom while “wearing” your baby in bjorn/ergo/etc. carrier

34. You will witness your spouse making the most absurd noises just to entertain your baby, and you will love him/her that much more

35. You will stop thinking baby farts are funny, they will become the norm

36. You will be overjoyed about a little tiny poop that causes little mess in the diaper

37. You think of someone else 234,836,178,976 times a day

38. You don’t mind going to bed at 9 p.m. on Friday night

39. Your dog – who used to be your baby – will become just a dog

40. You give parents with a screaming child an ‘I-know-the-feeling’ look instead of a ‘Can’t-they-shut-him-up?’ one

send me your comments with what YOU would add!